Dear Past Me, You don’t need to change his mind. You don’t need to change the mind of any oppressive man. You do not need to convince him your experience…
Dear Present Me, it is important to notice how gendered the world is…
I have decided to try not to take gender lenses off, but leave them in place, and, rather than trying to eliminate the gender discriminations and differences that appeared, understand them and point them out for other people to realize they are there…
To steady the pendulum
To steady the pendulum
swinging in the dark,
left to right,
I cannot see my own direction.
disillusioned-
unsure of what’s reality,
unsure of me.
dysphoric,
but of what?
who knows,
who needs to know.
maybe, of me, you see,
of me and who I’ll be.
and one day
I’ll know
that I was just for show
and I can be,
truthfully,
the one my heart does know.
Lauren Curr
Inked
inked
I trace the draft of
the story you planned to write-
in pencil-
but you wanted it in pen.
maybe I did too.
but I knew life could be brighter
if only you wait.
so waiting is what I did,
afraid you might let go-
if I were too fast or slow-
but no- together,
we took the ink
and brushed the page
with a feathered quill,
and together,
we wrote our story
in permanent ink,
the cursive letters
joining words, alike
to the way our hands
connect. eternally.
with the quill, we
write our story into
motion, and the ink
flows free, creating something
beautiful, even in
the stains left
as the ink blots,
as the heart’s passions explode.
art. the smudged
blends into the paper,
the other threads of the tale
to create our own
kind of beautiful.
Lauren Curr
Dear Present Me, you are allowed good sex
So I had sex last night, after months of torturing myself with that “I need to get laid” mindset. But now post sex, I guess I’m just a bit disappointed….
Dear Present Me, you have done nothing wrong
I am sharing this not only to vent my frustrations but also with the aim to prove to myself and others that blatant harassment comes in many forms, and that if you feel that somebody is crossing a line, its important to listen to that…
Dear Past Me, take your time
You are not the only one who distrusts and resents that part of their body. When you enter a relationship, you will find it impossible to have sex, and you will feel futile and unloveable as a result…
Anna Cowan, Girls Against
I first met Anna at a training day for Sexpression, a club which trains volunteers to teach sexual education to teenagers at local secondary schools. When I introduced myself to…
Dear Past Me, sex is not life
Right now it seems like not having sex life equates to leading no life at all. All your friends are doing it, and you feel its vacancy…
Is it flirting or stalking?
Last year I spent a portion of my gap year in Pakistan. One day I attended a lecture on Jinnah, the founder of the nation. I remember shivering in the…
It’s about time we start celebrating vulvas
I remember going for a wee when I was around twelve, looking down at my vagina and being baffled by the sudden appearance of labia minora. I had literally no idea what they were…
Dear Past Me, get a vibrator
It will change your life.
My boyfriend bought me one and honestly it has been such a brilliant, liberating thing to have!
Little Delhi Girl
Little Delhi Girl
A little girl skipped into the road during a red light
No older than four
Bare feet pattering against dusty tarmac
What if it turns green?
What if the cars don’t see her?
Smiling, as vibrant as Delhi itself
Child of the city
The traffic her playground
One note her prize
Lilah Hyman
Womanhood
Womanhood
My long hair is the hood of womanhood
A waterfall of compliments and male validation, a crown
You see me in the street and know i am a girl
If i shaved my head would i be a strong woman
Or an unwoman
Red riding hood becomes the wolf
Lilah Hyman
Jane’s return
Jane’s return. ‘Do not struggle so,’ I have been told, and then felt Angered and afraid Of chains and of nets.Now I have returned to youof my own free will…
Dear Present Me, stop being jealous of the strong women my boyfriend compliments
When my boyfriend comments on the personality, actions or sense of style of another woman I often feel jealous rather than impressed. He will say ‘she’s a genius’, ‘she’s a really strong woman you would rate her’, ‘she is so vibey and creative’…
Unstring my wings
Unstring my wings.
Pretty little thing – doe eyes, gentle smile –
These things you call me and it’s sweet for a while,
Until they wrap up my wings in tangled twine,
Restrain me from nature and you think that it’s fine.
I have brittle bones and one word could break them into pieces for you to collect:
When this started, I could not expect
To be taken for a thing for you to call yours,
Take me from the moors and keep me indoors –
Babe, I just want to be free
And maybe that means that this isn’t meant to be.
Though tonight I won’t sleep a wink
For all this thinking, and overthinking,
I know it’s for the best.
You – you have put my heart to the test
And I am sick of making revisions
To fit into your future visions
Of a white picket fence life,
For I was not meant to be a wife,
Not really. I was meant to be a wild thing,
Running through forests, free to unstring
My wings and let them fly.
Rhi Henry
Washing
Washing.
Heart beat pumping aching shoulders into motion
Coarse fabric beneath tired hands
The wail of an infant ringing in her ears
She places a detergent capsule in the machine, shuts it and moves the knob to 40 degrees mixed load.
Lilah Hyman
Dear Present Me, stop apologising
I’m always apologising. Is it because I’m just an apologetic person? Is it just because I am British? Or is it because I’m a woman?
Why religion hates women every month
I’m in a beautiful jewellery store in Jaipur. The shopkeeper’s intensity and way of speaking would make an excellent chat show host. He tells me that because my name is Lilah and i am born on the 14th of April i should buy a clear amethyst pendant…