I am sharing this not only to vent my frustrations but also with the aim to prove to myself and others that blatant harassment comes in many forms, and that if you feel that somebody is crossing a line, its important to listen to that…
Dear Present Me, you are allowed good sex
So I had sex last night, after months of torturing myself with that “I need to get laid” mindset. But now post sex, I guess I’m just a bit disappointed….
Dear Past Me, take your time
You are not the only one who distrusts and resents that part of their body. When you enter a relationship, you will find it impossible to have sex, and you will feel futile and unloveable as a result…
Dear Past Me, sex is not life
Right now it seems like not having sex life equates to leading no life at all. All your friends are doing it, and you feel its vacancy…
Dear Past Me, get a vibrator
It will change your life.
My boyfriend bought me one and honestly it has been such a brilliant, liberating thing to have!
Dear Present Me, stop being jealous of the strong women my boyfriend compliments
When my boyfriend comments on the personality, actions or sense of style of another woman I often feel jealous rather than impressed. He will say ‘she’s a genius’, ‘she’s a really strong woman you would rate her’, ‘she is so vibey and creative’…
Dear Present Me, stop apologising
I’m always apologising. Is it because I’m just an apologetic person? Is it just because I am British? Or is it because I’m a woman?